Mary
Suggest you contact the Genealogy Dept of the Mid Continent Library, at the link below. Give them Velda's death date and ask if they will look up her obituary. They have the microfilms of the KC Times and KC Star, one of which should have the obituary. The obituary will list which cemetery she was buried in. Ask them the check the Wyandotte County Cemetery indexes they have for Jerry's death date, so they can also look up his obituary.
http://www.mcpl.lib.mo.us/branch/ge/researchpolicy.htm
Good Luck
Dave Goldy